Recognizing Gaslighting at Work

You're not crazy. And you're not imagining it.

I've sat in rooms where I questioned my own memory. I'd walk out of a meeting wondering if I'd misheard, overreacted, or made the whole damn thing up.

I hadn't.

Signs you're being gaslit at work:

1. Decisions you remember clearly "never happened."

2. Feedback is vague, constant, and impossible to act on.

3. Your wins get reassigned. Your mistakes get a spotlight.

4. You're "not a team player" the minute you ask a reasonable question.

5. The rules change, but only for you.

6. You start documenting everything just so you can trust yourself.

7. Sunday nights feel like dread, not rest.

If a few of these hit home, you're not imagining it, and it's not a you problem. It's a culture problem.

And there's a way through. What helped me:

• Keep a private decision log. Date, who was there, what was decided. Your memory gets a witness.

• Find one ally you trust to reality-check with.

• Decide your exit line now: the point where you stop fixing it and start leaving.

Which one did you recognize first?

I wrote about this in Book 6, You're Not Imagining It. Link in the first comment.

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